Why You Might Want to Work With Me — And What You Can Expect at The Intimacy Practice

Thinking about reaching out for support is a big deal — bigger than most people admit. It usually happens at the crossroads between “I can’t keep doing this” and “I deserve something better than this.”

If you’re reading this, you might already be standing there.

Maybe you’re feeling disconnected from yourself or your relationship.

Maybe desire feels unpredictable, confusing, or completely shut down.

Maybe shame has been quietly running the show behind the scenes for far too long.

Or maybe nothing is “wrong,” but you’re craving more clarity, confidence, pleasure, or self-understanding.

Whatever brought you here, here’s what I want you to know:

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1. You Don’t Need to Be Broken to Seek Support

Let’s start with the truth: needing help isn’t a failure. You’re not weak, dramatic, or “too much.” You’re human.

People come to me because they want to feel more like themselves — or because they’re ready to meet the version of themselves they’ve never had permission to explore.

You might want support because…

• Your sexuality has changed and you don’t know what to make of it Hormonally, emotionally, relationally — desire evolves. You’re not wrong; you’re transforming.

• You’ve been carrying shame or confusion alone Shame thrives in silence. Healing thrives in connection.

• You want more pleasure, confidence, or authenticity in your intimate life Not the Instagram version — the real, grounded, lived-in kind.

• You’re navigating relationship changes Monogamy to ENM. Straight to queer. Feeling stuck in desire differences. Trying to reconnect after stress, parenting, life.

• You want a space where you can talk about sex, identity, pleasure, trauma, curiosity, or confusion without judgement A space where nothing about you is “too weird,” “too dirty,” or “too complicated.”

Whatever your reason, it’s valid. And you deserve support that honours the whole you — body, mind, relationship dynamics, cultural background, lived experience, and nervous system.

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2. What Makes The Intimacy Practice Different

There are a million therapists and coaches out there, but you’re not looking for generic support — you’re looking for someone you actually feel safe with.

Here’s how I work:

A No-Bullshit, Real-Human Approach

I don’t do cold, clinical, or sugar-coated. I swear, I laugh, I name the messy truths, and I speak like a real person — because healing doesn’t happen when you’re performing or pretending.

Evidence-Based + Body-Based

Your sexuality and emotional world are not separate. I integrate:

• Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT)• Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)• Sensate Focus & Somatic Practices• The Biopsychosocial Model

This means we explore your thoughts, emotions, nervous system, relationships, environment, and lived experience — not just “the symptom.”

LGBTQ2S+ and kink-informed, trauma aware, culturally humble

Your identity matters — not because it defines you, but because it shapes your lived reality. Every part of you is welcome here.

You are an equal partner in the work

I don’t sit on a pedestal. We collaborate. You lead with your truth; I guide with expertise, structure, and compassion.

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3. What You Can Expect in Our Work Together

If you’ve never worked with a sex therapist or intimacy-focused practitioner before, the unknown can feel intimidating. Let me take the mystery (and the pressure) out of it.

Your Very First Session

You can expect:

• A slow, grounding start — you don’t have to “jump in” before you’re ready.

• A full biopsychosocial assessment — who you are, your relationships, your history, stress load, patterns, identity, values, and goals.

• Emotional mapping — understanding where shame, fear, anxiety, or numbness show up in your body and mind.

• A clear plan for where we’re going and how we’ll get there.

Nothing sexual happens in session. This work is talk-based, trauma-aware, emotionally grounded, and always led by your comfort level.

What Sessions Feel Like

Clients often say sessions feel like:

• 50% therapy

• 30% education and practical tools

• 20% nervous-system grounding, emotional processing, or identity exploration

Some days you’ll leave with worksheets or prompts. Some days you’ll leave feeling lighter. Some days you’ll leave with a fire lit under your ass. All are valid.

What You’ll Actually Learn

You’ll learn:

• How your desire system works (and why it shuts down or activates)

• How to regulate your nervous system for pleasure and intimacy

• How to rebuild connection to your body without pressure

• How to rewrite old stories that have shaped your sexuality

• How to communicate your needs, truths, and boundaries

• How to cultivate confidence, curiosity, and emotional safety

This isn’t fluffy self-help. This is structured, grounded, research-backed transformation.

4. What You Won’t Get Here

You won’t get shame. You won’t get judgment. You won’t get a cookie-cutter treatment plan. You won’t get a therapist who stares silently and nods for 50 minutes. You won’t get someone who tries to fix you — because you’re not broken.

5. Why Clients Choose to Work With Me

Simply put:

Because they want a space where they can be fully themselves — messy, curious, uncertain, hopeful — without being made to feel wrong for it.

They want real change. Real clarity. Real confidence. Real connection.

And they want someone who is:

• compassionate

• direct

• trauma-aware

• pleasure-positive

• culturally humble

• science-informed

• and deeply, unapologetically human

Someone who swears a little, laughs a lot, and isn’t afraid to sit with whatever you bring into the room.

If You’re Thinking About Reaching Out…

It’s normal to feel nervous. It’s normal to wonder if you “really need this.” It’s normal to hope things get better on their own — and equally normal to realize you deserve support now, not later.

You don’t have to keep figuring this out alone.

Your healing, pleasure, identity, and emotional freedom are not luxuries — they’re part of your birthright.

And if you’re ready to explore that, I’m here.

Warmly,

Chantelle

The Intimacy Practice